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I love to cook, and bake. There are two places I can be found when my mind is full, and that’s in a kitchen, or writing. I’m a bit fonder of the results from my kitchen…or maybe I’m just more confident in them. In all my kitchen endeavors, I seem to be known most for my baking. This means every time we are invited somewhere, asked to bring something, or help out with food, I’m assigned dessert. And I DO NOT mind a bit. However, sometimes those things pile up. Before you know it you’re taking cupcakes to the baseball party, end of the year party, and have to throw something together for those people coming over all in the same day. Like I said, I DO NOT mind this. But sometimes I have to shut down the perfectionistic and creative side that would love to make something fantastic, delicious, and spend all day in the kitchen doing so. Sometimes, you just gotta get ‘er done, and not care if Creme Anglaise is a part of it or not. So when I want fun with a little fancy and more importantly easy, I pull this out.
There is one box mix in my pantry at all times, and only one. I have tried lots and lots of brownie recipes from scratch, and they just don’t compare. So whatever, Ghirardelli for life. My one caveat to the directions is to add coconut oil instead of the canola/vegetable oil as directed. It adds great flavor, and is healthier. A dash or two of cinnamon and pinch of cayenne make things really fun if you’re feeling adventurous!
I pour them in a mini muffin tin, sprayed with coconut oil and bake for 8-10 minutes. Run a knife gently around them while still warm to help loosen them a bit. Let cool completely then remove from pan. You could stop right here and throw them on a plate, but I like to go a step further. While the brownies are baking I make some ganache (recipe and directions here). As I pop them out of the tin, I dunk the tops of them in ganache and lay them out for the chocolate to firm up a bit. I then throw some berries (any kind will do) on top. Blueberries and raspberries are pretty easy to plop on; for the strawberries I cut slits and spread them out like a fan, making those a bit more time consuming. If you have mint or basil in your garden, throw a few sprigs on top (it adds great flavor too!) and you’re ready to go!
These are great little hand held bites that are perfect for places where portability is key. And they’re so pretty. And easy. And yummy. And you should make them. I won’t judge if only half of them make it to their intended destination because the others made it into your mouth. That may or may not have happened here. Maybe my intended destination was my mouth.
It’s been a hard day of parenting. Like fall on the couch after they’re all in bed and start crying sort of day.
There was intentional disobedience, intention to harm, and then lots of lying…all in front of others. And that was just one of them.
Maybe you don’t have a challenging kid. Maybe your kid(s) is the one that listens when you tell them not to do something, and when they do something wrong, they fess up. Enjoy that. Thank God for that. You may not relate to a lot of this post.
If however, you regularly find yourself dealing with similar situations that I described above, or constant challenging, disobedience, testing of the rules, etc., welcome to parenting a strong-willed, stubborn, maybe even rebellious kid. I have two. Payback really does suck, because I was that kid. Sorry mom and dad.
It’s not easy to parent children like that. It’s not easy to parent period, but this type seems to especially suck you dry of parental energy. It’s REALLY hard to not discipline out of anger, or frustration, or dissapointment. It’s an extreme challenge to parent in a Godly way regardless of your kids disposition. In my somewhat short journey in attempting to do so these are a few things that have helped me in the process.
1. Label it. For me, it’s been easier to see the personality for what it is, label my kids with it, and know that it’s a natural disposition. One of my children literally came out stubborn. The other started showing signs around 10 months. The label isn’t a “get out of jail free” card, where I excuse their actions due to their nature. It helps me remember that these tendencies aren’t indicative of something I did wrong, am not doing right, or even contributed to. They are not behaving this way to disappoint or frustrate me. They aren’t trying to overthrow me (although somedays it may really feel like it). It’s just the way they are. Which leads to…
2. Remember it’s a good thing. There are times when I’m just so tired of the fight, and being intentional in how I parent. Saying the same things day in and day out, for YEARS, and it still not getting through. It’s then I try to remember that this personality type is a really great thing. These are the world changers, the company CEO’s, risk takers and leaders. I’ve loved this quote from Steve Jobs to help me keep it in perspective:
“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
Sometimes I have to calm down and remind myself, that I am helping contribute and parent one of these potentials. That molding, shaping and focusing any human is hard…especially those that fight it every step of the way; but how I shape their world, determines how they will shape theirs.
3. Walk away. Maybe you don’t have an anger issue. I didn’t think I did either until my kid pulled it out of me. One of our biggest goals as parents is to never discipline angry. This often means a long time in their room (or crib, back in the day) before discussions or consequences occur, and often more after.
4. Get to the heart. Talk it out. WHY are they doing it? Not just the temporary results (wanted to, didn’t want to get in trouble, wanted to seem cool to others, etc). The deep roots. For us this is where faith comes in. Sin is why we all disobey, what sin is at the root of the action, spurring on the behavior? I often have to ask myself this same questions.
5. Repent. Apologize. There really is an art to apologies, and it turns out very few adults know it. We want to teach our kids how to apologize, mainly by example. They see us apologize to each other, to others, and to them. We have to apologize a lot. One of my constant reminders when my kids say sorry is to say it in a sentence. For example “I’m sorry I _____”. I have a general rule that if there is an “if” or “but”, it’s not an apology. Apologizing is important, not just to others, but to God. We first need to apologize to Him for what we did, then to others. As my kids get older I’ve found them at times, so grieved by the act of apologizing to God and to others, that I’ll wave additional consequences.
6. Love. After major instances (like today), I’ll often just spend a chunk of time with the guilty party talking it through (see #4). While we are doing that, we usually are laying together, they’re sitting in my lap, or I’m holding their hands. I don’t know about you, but when I do really dumb stuff, I want someone to hug me. I want my children to know that just like Jesus, even when we do dumb things, that doesn’t make Him/us love less. I may not like the choices/actions, but I always love them. I want to love my kids like Christ has loved me. Selflessly, not caught up in my hurt or embarassment, being gracious and patient. Just like in my own life, a lot of time when I’m being a complete moron, it’s because I need to spend time with my Abba, Father. I think they are the same way, needing to spend time with their Abba, Father, and their earthly parents, loving, affirming them, and pointing them back to Christ and being a physical representation of His love to them.
Being a parent is the hardest, most challenging job I’ve ever had. Some days (like today) it’s draining, physically, mentally and emotionally. You doubt your efforts and abilities. You start to view your children and raising them as a burden and hassle instead of a gift and opportunity to positively affect the next generation (just me?). I want to parent well, I believe we all do. I want my kids to see Jesus in how I discipline and parent them, to see that they are a gift and treasure. It’s then that I put them to bed, wait until they’re asleep and sneak in to check on them. Each night I’m overwhelmed at their beauty, and the gift of life entrusted to me and my husband. I take my shortcomings and failures to the foot of the cross, and start over.
Hopefully this encourages you that you’re not the only one out there fighting the good fight. It is a fight! It’s hard, but so good, and so worth it. Press on, mama!
I’m a seasonal eater. I like fruit and veg in season…they just taste better. I also like eating cold things when it’s hot and hot things when it’s cold. I could live off soup during cool weather and when it starts getting warm, just give me salad. I also find both a way to eat healthy, be budget conscious, and clear out whatever I need to in the fridge.
Thus the salad kick I’ve been on recently. The gorgeous heads of lettuce I’ve been finding at the farmers market and in my backyard garden have also helped fuel the abundance green on my table.
Here are a few of the salad we’ve been binging on recently:
Turkey chopped salad. Provolone, tomato, cucumber, avocado, bacon, chopped turkey, with a white wine vinaigrette (white wine, EVOO, dijon, S&P). I made a sandwich with these same ingredients (turkey, lettuce, tomato, provolone, bacon and a drizzle of the vinaigrette) between two slices of thick whole wheat bread. These both were inspired by a trip (or three) to Kaldi’s coffee shop on are recent trip back home. After going 3 times to have either the salad or the sandwich, I figured I better make an attempt at home. They were a hit with everyone and now both are in permanent rotation thanks to their ease and tastiness.
BBQ chicken salad. Lettuce (red leaf), corn, black beans, avocado, tomato, Colby Jack cheese, bacon, chopped chicken, and drizzles of bbq sauce and ranch dressing. We buy a pint of ranch from Jim ‘N Nicks if we are in the area to use for salads, and veggies and dip. Should I make my own…probably, but there’s is so good! Most restaurants will sell you a container of their dressing, if you ask.
Fried chicken salad. Butter lettuce, cheddar, corn, broccoli, tomato, hard boiled egg, carrot. Basically whatever veg I have laying around, I throw in this. I serve it with Bell and Evans gluten free chicken strips. Two boxes for my family. (!). Despite my best efforts, I have one kids whose favorite meal is still chicken fingers and fries. He feels like this meal is a win because he gets chicken fingers, I feel like it’s a win because he has to eat salad with his chicken fingers. This is a pretty quick and easy meal to get on the table, and one that everyone likes…win!
Steak salad. I am paranoid about not having enough food for guests, so I always make an abundance. The weekend we had friends over for flank steak (marinated in balsamic, soy sauce, worstechire sauce, garlic, and salt and pepper for 8 hours) was no exception. Leftover steak being a perfect salad topping, that was where it headed. I chopped it to make it easier to serve the kids, but strips would have been prettier. Underneath it is cucumber, tomato, broccoli, carrots and red leaf butter lettuce. I made Ina Garten’s green goddess salad dressing to go with it.
This was just a simple salad for lunch one afternoon when I actually had a moment to make something. Plus I was trying to savor my last few moments of silence before school was out, and a nice salad and book seemed like the perfect thing to do just that. This was red leaf butter lettuce with shredded carrot, cucumber, chopped dill havarti cheese, and served with green goddess dressing. This would also make a great side salad for dinner, or you could add some grilled chicken to make it an entree in itself!
Hopefully one of these will give you some inspiration to grab a head of lettuce, clear out your fridge and get a salad on the table!
I’m a cheese and cracker girl. It’s my default snack, my go to lunch staple, must have appetizer…I like cheese and crackers.
So when I moved to the South and started hearing about this thing called pimento cheese…it was only a matter of time.
Since I first learned to make it, I’ve played with it. I’ve tweaked it to my liking, and even converted some non-pimento cheese loving southerners, to like it. I love storing it in small mason jars during the summer to easily throw in a cooler bag with (wait for it…) crackers for a poolside snack or picnic staple.
I’m all about easy, so I make mine in the food processor. I use the shredder attachment to shred the cheese, the add the blade back in with the cheese still in there.
After buying several rounds of diced pimentos in the grocery store, I realized they are basically the same thing I already had in my pantry. Roasted red peppers. I buy mine in bulk at Costco, because I use a lot of them, and they are really cheap there.
To the shredded small block of cheese I add a whole pepper and pulse until it’s just diced and mixed in. I then add a heaping tablespoon of mayonnaise (shudder), some salt, and a couple dashes of Louisiana hot sauce. Then my secret ingredient…the liquid from the roasted red pepper jar. It adds tons of flavor, and needed moisture from the low amount of mayo I tolerate it mine. Pulse until just combined.
This takes me about 5 minutes. Five minutes for a delicious snack sounds pretty reasonable to me! I can’t do the whole white bread thing…too much mush and no crunch, so I conveniently default to (I’m sure you guessed…) crackers, if I’m not gussying it up by throwing it on a burger, or grilled chicken sandwich (with bacon, of course!), or making a grilled pimento cheese and bacon sandwich, or dreaming of a fried green tomato and pimento cheese sandwich…
Shred block of cheese in food processor. Add pepper and pulse until pepper is just diced and mixed in. Add mayo, a few dashes of hot sauce, salt, and a tablespoon of roasted red pepper liquid, pulse until just combined. Taste. Add more salt, hot sauce, and liquid as needed.
Today at 2:40pm, school will officially be out for the summer.
I write that sentence with equal parts joy and equal parts dread.
Joy because I’m looking forward to warmth, sun, water, and FREEDOM. No practices, carpool, or homework. (I’ve always loved the idea of summer, and sun, and all things hot…)
This also leads to my dread. That is A LOT of empty time to fill. Time that has the potential to be filled with noise, chaos, bickering, and NOISE.
And if you have boys, you know when they don’t have something to do, they find not good things to do. Every day the goal is to wear them out.
So after a few years, I’ve started coming up with a plan of attack. My kids operate best off a schedule, it’s just how we roll. I mean, my three year old who can’t tell time asks me when we are leaving. We are a planning people. The schedule doesn’t have to be iron clad, but a general guideline does us good.
So here is what I’m thinking is going to work for us.
Generally the goal is to wake up before the children. We are all happier when this happens. After we’ve woken up and had breakfast, the plan is to do a little morning devotional time. I love this bible, and the devotions in it. I’ve tried several devotionals for kids, and this has been my favorite, and it’s conveniently within the bible right next to the referenced scripture. Plus, I feel like it can work for a lot of ages. We’ve been working on some scripture memorization, which I will roll into this time. I’ve also been wanting to incorporate some basic theology and church history, and think we may give this book a shot.
Then will be exercise time. Remember, the name of the game is to wear them out. I like to run and do exercises that use your body weight (I.e. Push-ups, squats, etc, HIIT style). I can’t run with my kids. It just doesn’t work for me. Running will have to happen early mornings or later evenings, but the kids can do the other exercises with me. We’ve already had several push-up and planking competitions, and these will only get fiercer. Hopefully they provide some good competition by the end of the summer!
From there we will go with whatever the “day” is from this schedule. Sometimes this will take up the majority of our day (like going to the pool with friends) and sometimes it will just be a quick project (like a craft/science experiment a là Pinterest).
I’m going to tack on some of our “must do’s” onto the lighter days. Crafts don’t take as long, so we will probably be making some of our grocery/errand runs on Monday. We like to entertain a fair amount on weekends, so it makes sense to straighten the house up on Fridays.
After the featured activity and needs get completed, we will either head home for lunch, or grab it out. Several picnics have already been requested, so I’m sure plenty of those will be happening.
My youngest will go down for a nap (thank you, Jesus, for naps!) after lunch, and it’s boy time. They’ll be given a variety of options depending on how the day has gone, and what I need to get done…some video game time, reading on their kindles, playing with the neighborhood kids, school work, chores around the house, etc.
About the time my little will be up, the boys will start some school work. I know…I’m so cruel. But I have done summers without any work, and done them with, and we are all happier with. And better prepared for the school year. I believe our natural inclination is to always be learning, and want to feed into that, not teach them everything stops during summer. I will be using these books again this summer, along with supplementing with some worksheets found through Pinterest, and Teachers Pay Teachers. I really like these books, although I do find them to be a bit behind, so I always go up a year. For instance, my going into 4th grade son will be doing the 4-5 book. If you’re looking for more busy work though, I would stay with the same grade. You can preview the books on amazon to make sure you’re comfortable with what they will be going over. My daughter will come down and start working on her book as well.
I like that they get some practice work in, and that they end up helping teach one another. Plus I’ve usually started on dinner by this time, so it buys me some time.
When they are finished with work, they will be directed to reading. Bickering usually ensues after about 20 minutes, at which point I will either banish them to the fenced in backyard, or cave and let them watch tv while I finish dinner. Keeping it real folks.
While a schedule is all well and good, I mentioned some of my biggest fears of summer is the NOISE, and the fighting. Often the two go hand in hand in my home. Stealing this wonderful, brilliant lady’s idea, and combining it with my sons fabulous kindergarten teachers reward system…I think I’ve got a plan to help war against behavior issues.
The general idea is that there is a jar for rewards, and a jar for consequences.
The way the rewards jar works, is that they have to collectively earn 12 brownie points to be able to pull from the reward jar. I’ll keep track of how many they have on my phone. For minor infractions, a deterrent for whatever the days issue is…will be loosing brownie points. This will work well, I think, for the bickering and not sharing, because they earn the brownie points together, and loosing them will effect everyone as well.
Some of our rewards are:
-a trip to the park
-a school work free day
-king of pops (a local popsicle company that is always at at our farmers market)
-lunch out, possibly with dad
-stay up late
-extra media time
-popcorn and a movie
-go to park
There are tons more options, depending on what you kids favorite things are. They came up with all these options, with some guidance from mom. I wanted choices that we could do quickly, and wouldn’t have to take much planning or effort to make happen. One that didn’t make it was hang out with friends…not because that wouldn’t be great, but more because that takes a fair amount of planning and coordination with other parents. I want them to get the reward right away.
For the consequences jar, this will be used for bigger ticket items and be done on an individual basis. My two big things that will get consequences are telling on one another, and talking back/disobeying. I’m sure you don’t ever have these problems in your home…
One of the things that is a bit different about the consequences jar, is that they have a 25% chance of pulling a stick that says grace. This is a great chance to talk about the grace we receive from Christ. The brilliant woman who came up with this does a great job of explaining it. Be sure to check it out!
Our consequence sticks are:
-15 minute time out in room
-make all the beds
-hug siblings for 1 minute each
This can be customized depending on ages and what works best for you. I could have made lots of housework as a punishment, but I don’t want them to view housework as a punishment. It’s a responsibility all of us have, to take care of what we have been entrusted with…and I don’t want to avoid muddling the line between responsibility and punishment. The bed stick is more a way of serving siblings, and no one likes cleaning toilets…plus they are the ones that dirty them most, so I felt ok about that one.
To assemble the jars, I simply used vitamin jars ready to go out to the recycling, and threw a fun label on it. Make sure it’s a jar the kids can’t see through or look into very well…like my oldest already tried. Then just write on large Popsicle sticks. The whole thing (including coming up with ideas!) took less than 15 minutes, and has already helped save several situations!
Finally we are doing a general summer to-do list, of things we want to be sure to do. This involves typical things, like play in the sprinkler, go to the pool, beach, etc. We also have some that are more oriented towards our family, like plan and cook a meal together, plant/take care of our garden, watch a movie in our backyard, make a lemonade stand (literally build it), then use proceeds to take lemonade to homeless downtown (oldests idea!). It’s always helpful to have some fun goals to work on, and go to solutions for those days when you’re just out of ideas.
Hopefully all of these things will help us to have a fun and productive summer, with minimum whining, complaining and fighting…from kids, or mom!
What are you doing to have a great summer?
I’ve been making a lot of cupcakes lately. I always make a lot of cupcakes…it did use to be my job, but there has been a greater influx than normal. Partially because it’s that time of year…birthdays, baseball parties, showers, teacher appreciation week, etc. And partially because cupcakes make people happy. And I, and a whole lot of people I know right now, happen to need a little bit of happiness.
Maybe you could use a little bit of happiness right now. Or know someone who may need some. So I’m going to give you the recipe for happiness.
First the cupcakes part. This is pretty easy as far as cupcakes go. Although I make it a goal to simplify most of my recipes as much as possible. Ain’t nobody got time for sifting, and two separate bowls for dry and wet ingredients. Pshh. One bowl baby. And a saucepan, but who’s counting?
Start your water boiling in your saucepan. While you’re waiting for it to boil…and NOT watching it…you get your flour, sugar, and salt all mixed in your mixing bowl and ready for the chocolate mixture. I go ahead and pull out all the other stuff I’m going to need too, because I’m NOT watching that darn pan and I am going to need it anyways. Once it starts boiling, you add your butter, let that get mostly melted and add HEAPING tablespoons of cocoa. I mean as much as can possibly fit on that spoon. And you don’t need an actual measuring spoon for it, a large spoon will do. Stir, stir, stir until it’s all combined and bubbling a few seconds.
Then pour your chocolate mixture into your mixing bowl with the flour and sugar, and mix.
Once it’s good and combined, add your buttermilk/sour cream/yogurt to cool it off before adding eggs. Then plop those in and throw in your baking soda. Make sure and read the can to make sure it says baking SODA and not baking POWDER. Because baking powder does not make them rise as pretty. I speak from experience. Then some vanilla, and boom. Pour, bake, repeat. I can usually squeeze 36 cupcakes out of this recipe. And unless you have a very fancy oven, (lucky you!) you’re not fitting that many cupcakes in at a time.
In between all that baking and repeating, make some buttercream. And maybe some ganache if you’re extra organized.
You know what makes buttercream so good? Butter. And salt, to balance the sweet, but mainly…butter. Don’t trust anything with that shortening business, it’s all about the butter. So go ahead and throw two room temp sticks of it into the rinsed out pan you just used for the cupcake batter. Because the goal is to only have to unload the dishwasher once a day. Mix the butter until it’s all whipped together nicely. Throw a little salt in. Then throw a couple cups of powdered sugar in. Mix, mix, mix, until it’s all nice and fluffy. Then a little vanilla and taste. More salt? More sugar? I never make this recipe the same. It depends on the humidity, my mood, the way the wind is blowing. Sometimes I need extra sweet, sometimes I need extra salt. Measurements are approximate.
Set that aside and grab a microwave safe bowl. I know, we didn’t count the bowl, but it couldn’t be helped. I use my microwave for about three things: popcorn, melting chocolate, melting chocolate and heavy cream to make ganache. The end. Throw a bag of Ghiradelli semi sweet or dark chocolate chips in your bowl. Don’t use any other brand, unless you have money and time to burn want to drive around and get Valhrona or something else fancy, but when given the choice between store brand, plasticky brand and real chocolate, always go real chocolate. It will be well worth the extra $.50! Add about a cup of heavy cream to the bowl. Microwave 15 seconds, stir, repeat. Until it looks like this.
I like my ganache on the thicker side for spreading. If you want it thinner, add more cream. When you have leftovers (don’t worry, we planned for leftovers!) you can thin it out a bit with more cream after refrigerating and dip strawberries, oranges, banana, pineapple, brownies, ice cream, or just your fingers in it. This happens to be my go to quick dessert. Always have Ghiradelli chocolate chips, and heavy cream on hand, and you’ve got instant dessert. And s’mores made with ganache? You’re welcome.
Now for filling the cooled off cupcakes. I’m cheap and don’t use pastry bags. Quart sized freezer bags all the way. Snip the tip, add your coupler and tip. I used a small round tip with a large opening. Like a Wilton #12. Load up your bag with the buttercream. Insert your tip about halfway into the cupcake and squeeze. Stop when you see the top start to poof up…you don’t want it to crack and break. Slowly pull your tip out.
There are other ways of doing this, like cutting or punching it out, filling it then inserting the top back. But that’s a pain, and the name of the game is simple. Do what works for you. You will get cupcake on your tip though, so you’ll want some napkins handy to wipe off excess in between fillings.
After you’re done filling, spread the ganache over the top of the cupcakes and to the sides. Switch out your filling tip for a smaller round writing tip, like a Wilton #2 or #3, and write something…or you can do the traditional loops. I needed to spread some love, hugs and kisses, so that’s what I went for. Hopefully these cupcakes help you do the same.
Preheat oven to 350°. In saucepan boil water. Once boiling, add butter and cocoa. Boil for 30 seconds until combined. Remove from heat. In mixing bowl add flour, sugar and salt. Add in chocolate mixture and mix until combined. Add buttermilk/sour cream/yogurt and mix. Add eggs one at a time. While stirring, add baking soda and vanilla. Using a 1/4 cup measuring cup, add batter to lined muffin tins. Bake for approximately 12 minutes. Cupcakes are done when they spring back when pressed.
Whip butter and salt. Add powdered sugar and mix until combined and fluffy. Stir in vanilla. Taste and add more salt or powdered sugar as needed.
In microwave safe bowl, or double boiler add chocolate and cream. In double boiler, stir until melted. In microwave safe bowl, heat in 15 second increments stirring in between, being careful not to scorch. Add more cream for a thinner consistency
* For richer cupcakes, you can use coffee, but I would recommend decaf. This is also the same chocolate cupcake base I use to make my Irish Car Bomb cupcakes (chocolate stout cupcake, Bailey’s irish cream frosting). I use Guinness stout instead of the water.
** I seldom have buttermilk on hand, or want to take time to make it. I always have sour cream or plain yogurt on hand, so it’s simpler for me to use one of those. My yogurt is not greek, but I think greek could be used without a problem. I would recommend adding 1 or 2 tablespoons of milk to help offset the thickness though. Just make sure it’s plain.